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Fred Stoeker and Stephen Arterburn have a book where they talk about how average christian men can stay pure in daily life.  There are some good discussion group questions at the back of the book.  They give a dozen or so Bible verses mainly from the Messianic writtings (NT).  They make some good points and go deeper than the surface with advice such as not mentaly lurking at your neighbors door (Job 31:1ff).  Stephen Arterburn specializes with sex addicts.  So here in this book they talk about being fractionally addicted, meaning not really addicts just bad habit from a pleasure high of lusting.  I  am glad somebody finally wrote a book about this.  Most girls don't understand how crazy the new styles and make us.  I mean, I have heard moms complain they can't even find decent cloths for their daughter.

My critique would be that to find the power of the addiction you have to study more deeply in the Hebrew Bible and see the power of the idolotrous image behind it.  Orthodox Jews have good physical reminders like Tsi-tsi not to follow their own heart and eyes.  They have traditionally had very low divorce rates and I think this is part of it.
Maybe instead of telling new believers the Torah is not for them we need to get in touch with the Hebrew roots of Christianity more in this area too.

Just one more idea of my own.  Rabbis say God knew people would worship the sun, but that didn't stop Him from createing it.  In the same way, you know the sun is there even thought you don't stare at it.  If you stare at it you will burn your retinas.  Women are the same way.  Be glad they are there to light up the room.  But you know you are stareing at them if you look at them longer than you would look at the sun.

sounds like a usefull read
what's the book called

The Book is called Every Man's Battle I think.

At a large Calvary Chapel's book store I saw the new Youth group version of it called Every Young Man's Battle.

One other thing that I found usefull for my day to day walk with Yeshua is how the authors point out that the mind gate protects the eye gate and the eye gate protects the heart gate.  They guard each other.  The key is to know scripture and not be decieved.  They say the process is like a brook that eventually cleans it self out with pure water if you keep pure water going into it.