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Why is it that people who say they are Christians are the most absurd ill-mannered people?  They are so bi-polar in that they say and live one way one minute, and completely flip the next?

Currently I am at a Baptist University.....personally because they were the only university to offer as much financial assistance as they did.  I expected at least half of the student population to not be christian, and half of those who are to not live according to scripture though they may be saved.  But almost all?  I feel as Joseph did.  I moved from a life that felt like slavery to me.... to now a small town in a Baptist university that feels like prison.  I miss my buddhist and muslim friends.  Even the messianic jew is a little off herself, though she is atleast nice.  

I so badly long for an ADULT conversation.  I so badly LONG for someone to talk about scriptures, to pray with me, as in literally a time of prayer, and to not change at the drop of a dime from one extreme to the other.  I live how I live whether there are guys around or not, whether the girl who gossips behind my back is there or not.  Did I miss something?  I thought this stupid behaviour ended in junior high?  Or am I truly as weird as the pastor of my youth said I was and I just don't belong among Christians?  They are dragging me down. I can't stand to be around them.  Buddhist and Muslism, Atheists, etc.  have all encouraged me in my Christian life.  They ask me if I am studying my Bible, they ask me if I am praying, we discuss life, nature, philosophy, politics....all in a respectful well-thought adult conversation.  The Christians I've met and come to know....are immature, ungodly people with bi-polar lifestyles.  I have always wondered what it would be like to have a close Christian friend but now I don't ever want to have any.  They are a danger to my spiritual and mental health.  

I have three more semesters of this place and then I am going back out into the world.  It's safer being the only Christian in the group.  At least they won't put me in any unsafe, ungodly positions.

God help me through this prison!!!  

p.s.  The churches in this town are nuts!  They all preach at the pulpit....Vote for Palin.  :::::rolls eyes::::
Now I remember why I stopped going!  I prefer to study God's word not someones Republican rants!

Bass girl you were once a Satanist, you confess there are some issues in your life still to deal with like health for example... some Christian may pick up on other issues and behave with some distance as a result... not every Christian is a natural counselor also many people in seminary may have had similar or even worse backgrounds than you... why do you think you only need an encouriging word? Try to take the focus of yourself and encourage someone else... also please give others some grace and G-d grace will be enough for you.

G-d knows how far you have come... I don't and they don't... Jesus knows... when I was in bible college I didn't socialize too closely especially from people whom I quickly discerned had different doctrines and world views.

I personally would be thankful if you withdrew from posting publicly any new complaining posts for you are not giving glory to G-d with this desert story! Call a Chrisitan counselor from school if going to G-d in prayer is not bringing the breakthrough.

Take the opportunity in your season to spend more time with G-d and seek His praise! If this is really what is going on you don't even know what a blessed position you are in to see His Glory.

Clearly the devil is trying to bring offense to you so he can sift you as wheat stop yielding to him. Withdraw your offense and seek G-d alone for a season or two.

Bassgirl, Shalom.

May I offer, if not an answer, perhaps a guide as to how to survive, and serve, in your situation.

You may well be searching for help in all the wrong places.  On campus, there is always a campus paper, which accepts 'personal' ads.  Consider placing an ad, seeking to meet-up with fellow believers in Messiah, with a date, and place to meet.  You may be very surprised as to how many other young people are on campus, suffering the same loneliness you are.

With three semesters to go, I presume 'on scholarship,'  should you only find five or ten others, you, as a group, can witness a whole bunch.  Leave your mark, if you have to leave.  Do not, however, wimp-out, and crawl away, with your tail between your legs.  The price to your pride, and love for Messiah, would suffer much damage and bruising.

Ponder that, again perhaps, you may be being too judgmental?  Offer the 'believing' self to others.  If they reject, on a continuing basis, your faithful witnessing, you will have done Messiah's requirements.  He only said to take the word to the world, making deciples.  He also said, that if you fail, shake the dust off your feet, and boogie out of there, and (paraphrase don't look back.  Above all else, however,  do not, repeat, do not, dilute/pollute your faith, not for one second.  One second of ungodly behavior, or attitude, creates a chink in your armor, which evil loves to take root in.  We are error-prone enough, without allowing more sinful ways to take root.

Consider: You are there for a reason.  Make the best, for Messiah, that you can.  He will bless you for it.

You are in the Lions Den.  Pray!  Messiah is your only, Prime, Complete, Armour.

And STOP judging the whole, by what you see in the few.

In Messiah, Shalom to you, plus one and all.  Arley

Maybe God placed you there for a reason? (Obviously.)

When someome gossips, stop them mid-word and share the word with them on gossip.

Just a suggestion, Jonah. -wink-

My prayers for you my sister. I don't mean to make light of your situation. And I am not. (Although I do try to find humor in everything.)

Just short.

I love to talk to a lot off different people too. But I also met a lot of narrowminded Atheists, Muslims and Budhists and even Jews (my own culture). So I think that it is more the feeling of living on an Island with only 1 culture is just hard to breathe. For that I choose to be a city person (although I live 1 year on a kibbutz, but knew it was temporary).

I agree maybe that in General Christians are more bi-polar. or maybe addicted to the word ''believe'' so that what they Think is more important what they do...
With Muslims and Budists I have more open talk. Some Christians might help me with finding fun in studying. But Some worship Jews to much, so everything becomes ''wonderfull'' till worce, or the anti-dogma's come arround. But that is the fault of the Theology itself, so they keep on learning it.
With Muslims it depends what nation they are. But Budists or Atheists might be to full off themselves. Jews might be to stuck into their stream of tradition also to me...

So I think more or the less, Islandhopping might be necessary. For a lot of people like to live within their ''Island''.
Good luck

TRUTH (1 of 2)


Faith: There it is.  

You state you're *only* there since their financial assistance was the most generous.

You're not there because you love the word of God or fellowship with Christ believers. You're there for your personal convenience.

Example: Spiritual whoring brings miserable disquiet.


Faith: For you to be friends with them means you'd have to confront yourself through their reflection of genuine love for God with their 'imperfections'. How's that going to make you 'feel'? You'd have to change or go.

That's the avoidance. Your post shows you'd rather attribute your misery to them for your failings.

Example: When I was 18 I had a 'jerk' boyfriend (selfish inconsiderate - because I was). All my family and friends complained how I should dump him, he's a jerk, etc.

But... my best friend after hearing my 'millionth' complaint said frankly,

'You know... you're going through this because you don't have the GUTS to dump him. So that's on you.'

For the first time it wasn't 'poor me others causing my misery' it was truth ~ my selfishness and situational lack of courage was the problem.

It was fixed.

Someone loved me enough to tell me stinging 'humiliating' truth. I survived better for it. Never to forget it. While all others wanted to sooth my feelings with half truths and not risk disapproval.

The honorable and healing thing to do is to confess to God you're not there for Him, you're there for you, therefore, those who are there for Him are upsetting to you. He can take it, Jesus has seen it all, and He still loves.

TRUTH (2 of 2)


Faith: Then start another Bible study group. A prayer group. Don't change 'at the drop of a dime.' With these themes. Don't gossip behind others' back anymore (literally or spiritually).

Earnestly pray good, love, peace and acceptance upon them (starting with your actions) forgive them, forgive you, but don't compromise truth. Per 'Sow & Reap' and it will spread good ~ otherwise you're unnecessarily living and spreading discontent.

Faith: What these buddhist, muslim, and atheists are asking you is: "TELL US ABOUT JESUS. TELL US ABOUT THE BIBLE." That's what they're asking you!

Their religions are spiritual void the circumstances today increase stress (www.alphanewsdaily.com). People are inherently sensing they need
Jesus! The Creator! Father!

People have heard of this miraculous Jesus who walked on water, healed, saved, loved, protected and fed - there's no historic comparable to Him! They're asking for your help via ~Indirect communication. One does not ask about what they're not interested in. Hello?

Tell them what you know about Jesus by what the Bible says, admit you're still learning and growing and refer them to a solid Christian Bible practicing Christ believer to get their questions answered. Point them to JFJ if you don't know any 'Christians'. Send them: www.biblegateway.com


Faith: Considering your foundation here, you won't accomplish 3 semesters, be soul honest with God and you'll flourish there or wherever you go.

FYI: There is no spiritual or intellectual 'safety' among unbelievers.

'Do not be unequally yoked, what does light have to do with darkness.' 'By your friends ye shall be known.'


Faith: No.

Joseph was innocent, he spoke truth, he refused to whore spiritually or physically, he suffered, forgave, loved and blessed.

Do that through Christ and be blessed.

God bless.

Shalom there, Faith!

You just told Bassgirl what no guy would ever be allowed to tell her: T R U T H !  Well said.

Now: Shalom Bassgirl, Heed what Faith has shared with you.  You can take her words to the Bank of Life, and reap big dividends.  I had to speak softly, because 'I am a (shudder, shake) Guy.'  Now, though, I say:  Faith told it to you straight, and true.  Read and Heed!  Your life, here, and in Paradise, depends greatly on how you handle this 'here and now' tribulation.

Remember also, please:  You do not stand alone in any trial, unless you 'choose' to do so.

In Messiah, to one and all, Shalom.  Arley

Faith: We share lessons learned in Him to encourage others ~ testimony. Can't share if haven't 'been there done that.'

All praise and honor to Yeshua HaMochiach!