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Where did my perfectionism come from?  It is OK as long as it isn't the kind that makes you procrastinate.  It is supposed to be a bad attitude from your parents that infects you.  Is a 98 Ok or does it have to be a hundred?  Then it makes you angry if you can get a 117 from extra credit.

Mine came from tennis.  Why is tennis a perfectionism thing?  They said hit the ball into the net on purpose.

My muscle spasms are telling me I have to deal with this.  I am too critical of others and hide my problems.

You can blow up a nuclear plant this way, hideing mistakes I read, or crash a plane.

My college was into perfectionism.  At our familly reunion they put our grandfather's saying on Tshirts that was perfectionistic.  It said nothing but the best for us.

Just admitting it is already helping my muscle spasm to go less.

A health aid is coming to get my mom ready tomorow so you need to pray for me with my perfectionism things.

Taxes are badtoo cause they are supposed to be perfect or else so I am procrastinateing.

Laying there in bed worrying makes my pain worse.

How good does this have to be?  What happens if I don't perfect this thing?

They are saying people who are perfectionists are not good problems solvers.

They keep quiet their boss but give their familly fits.

Perfectionist's always, always, always, fall short of their own expectations, and therefore cannot be Perfectionist, with any perfection.  Perfectionist's are always seeking the elusive perfection, by missing the fact that they may well have already found it, in Jesus.

Give up, Chad. Surrender to 99.7% mediocrity.  Sure beats ulcers, and head bruises from when you smack self in the forehead for not getting the V-8. Ha.

When we graduate, the Perfectionist will graduate, with all that perfection, to the same alter of reward that guys like me, with our 'Yeee-Haaa's' graduate to.  Perfectionistic souls will look for flaws in the alter,  and I will be aw-struck by it's beauty.  I win.  Think on it. Oh yes:  Yeeee-Haaa!

In Messiah, His Shalom, and forgiveness of shortcomings.  Arley

I know you are saying just stop doing it.  But you see it takes a long time to change a thought process you developed over your whole life.  It goes back to you being little and your parents.

Some things can be done poorly, some things need to be done well, a few things require excellence.  Other things if you don't do at all it just totally doesn't matter.

Jesus said to be perfect as He is perfect in the gospels near the sermon on the mount.  

What does that mean?

I have my ideas but will let you all go first.

Reading a John Sarno book it fits Eph 4:26 where it says be angry but don't sin.

Just venting your anger won't make you less sick.

What it was was if say my mom did something that makes me feel angry I have to restructure my thinking and admit it without feeling guilty super strong anger (rage) is common.  But I am angry with my mom because I love my mom.

Just venting it doesn't help the psychosomatic pains.  It could make it worse.  THe main thing is your relation to the rage.  If you feel guilty about the rage your mind punishes you with pain or something like that.

NO  official studies to prove this, just most of Dr. John Sarnos pateitns who get better when they realize they have a rage reservoir.

HOw could I be so angry at my poor alzhiermer mother?

The goodism is part of it.  To accept your inner sinful self is not good nor perfect.