i am confused, about everything. i really am i need guidance adn i dont know what to really do. i am stuck in my life right now and i dont know what to do.
i dont belong to a church group, and yes i am not jewish but i thought maybe i could get some real advice.
for starters, as a gentile, how can i please our father, what do i have to abide by to please god, with the new world i want to know, does it even matter anymore if the sabbath is celebrated?(i think it should be, my opinon, i didnt read "occasional" anywhere in there) how should i deal with a marriage and family situation truly and correctly witht he lord, how much do i tithe and to where i dont belong to church, the reason i dont belong to a church is because i havent found one yet that feels like i should be there, is it wrong to feel that way, everyone and my wife included want me to settle. i cant do that. it feels as though everyday i see my self living more and more unclean and no way to get out of it or what to do about it. how am i supposed to segregate myself and my son from all of this(my wife wants to sin all week and go to church all sunday, that form of christianity)
i want a real relationship with god, there is so much contention in my life, my spouse never stops, my parents fight with my spouse, my spouse fights with my parents, my wife has left me every six months like clock work, and i am trying to do the right thing, it seems i ry to make a step closer to the lord and everyone keeps pushing me back.
i mean here in iowa how am i supposed to keep a job with the seven day work week how i dont know, and i pray about these things and remain silent.....
i am going crazy here i dont understand is there anyway to get my crap straight and live my lofe like i should or is it just more new agey goofy christian answers as well. does anyone have anything rooted in scripture.
i dont know what to do anymore it just seems like i am going down a blackhole and i dont want to live like this, no i am not on drugs, i am not a ruthless mean bastard(i am a realist)how do i gather gods blessing ?
In my opinion, you need to understand what G-d wants from you. How He wants you to act in this life. How he wants you to treat others. You can pray to Him and ask for guidance and to help you along the way, but first and foremost it must come from you. You must deep down inside, from the bottom of your heart be willing.
You are responsible for yourself. By changing the way you live your life, others will hopefully see the good in it and react in a positive way and may even change themselves.
WARNING!!!! It is NOT going to be easy. You will be constantly tested. It is your job to meet the challenge and overcome it.
Sorry I cannot give an "easy fix". Others may do so, but I ask you to be careful as even though something might seem to work in the begininng, you must realize this is a lifelong process.
I'm sure many others here will disagree with what I have said, but it is up to you to decide.
I wish you well on your journey.
Find a point of contact with a believer in Y'shua (Jesus) and PRAY in His name. IT WORKS!
All of your questions can be summed in one word. Jesus...
Jesus died so that your slate could be wiped clean. He payed the price. To please God is to live in his Messiah, Jesus. We are reconciled to God through his son, the Messiah. God loves you man, He does! To please God, we acknowledge the one He sent... I implore you... Ask the Lord to help you, seek him with an open heart.
A particular Church does not matter as many people claim... As long as it teaches what the Bible teaches and does not go off on any cultist tangent, such as Jehovah's Witness, Mormon ect...
The tithing.... it means 10%. 10% of your weekly income if you can.
The Sabbaths... We as Gentile Christians have celebrated the sabbath on a Sunday. Saturdays are okay too! As long as you live your life for the Lord. A sabbath is for man, not man for the sabbath. In my opinion, every day should be a sabbath for the Lord, every day belongs to him, and one day out of the week, it is his special day. Whether it be on Saturday or Sunday. Ask God what he thinks.
As for your last quote....
"i am going crazy here i dont understand is there anyway to get my crap straight and live my lofe like i should or is it just more new agey goofy christian answers as well. does anyone have anything rooted in scripture."
The entire Christian faith is rooted in the Hebrew scripture, even though many Jews won't see it... I recommend you to this site if you have some questions about scripture that doesn't seem as clear as it did before.
Please hear me, no "goofy answers." I will pray for you, and I assure you, from someone who has OCD, who obsesses over things, that God loves you. If you want to private message me, or get at me in E-mail, please do so. I will answer specific questions that you may have. Or if you would like to speak with a leader, I recommend
http://askdrbrown.org/
http://realmessiah.askdrbrown.org/Home.html
You can submit questions there, just submit your entire thread there...
Be assured, be strong my friend...
thanks that is good advice, all of it. anyone can add and talk to me, i am looking for strength to do the right thing. as it is said he that is in me is stronger than he that is in the world, correct?
i do pray i get to a private quiet prayer place and i pray, and it seems silent to me. not that god is ignoring me, because i dont believe that, but i do feel as though this stuff are trials and tribulations and he is gonna yank me to do what he wants me to do regardless of what i am focusing on. jesus christ(y'shua) is my savior, and i let be known i know that to know him is to know god as well. i am caught. i know taht i am strong willed human being but i am not rebelling against our father. i am descent in my life and descent and fair to others. i am trying. i know what tithe is and how much but where do i give it is more of the question. i went to a church in sioux city iowa as a child (cornerstone) and the pastors were misappropriating the money my parents gave as tithe(more on that some other time). where is the best place to put it? i dont know. ive prayed about it. people act liek if you get ansers from prayer your crazy due to god talking back.
people are literally screaming due to the fact that i wont pick up catholicism, that i wont wear some goofy ass rosary.
i really want to know, is i am trying to fight the good fight, in my life, and i know this, i am going to backed by the lord correct it seems no matter what i do i get shit on. im losing faith but i am losing humanity. i dont need to join a congregation right ?i can do bible study correct?
i feel that is better because i want to be in control of what other ppl teach my children, i believe taht i have that right no matter what. he needs to hear all of what the book says and not just the slim pickens, taht they think he can fathom. i was fed the book as it was as child, and i understood what it was because i asked questions. i still inderstood what i read as a child but is being misconstrued around me, and i want to know should i stick hard to what ive read and learned, i believe i should that is what i want to know. i should be unmoving with its translation. churches in my area well they think that the bible and scripture should be loosely interpreted because it was written so long ago and lah blah blah yadda yadda and i dont, am i wrong or just confused?
maybe i will jsut shut up now
if any of you feel as though you should talk to me that is fine my email is jesselorenstjohn(at)gmail.com
im struggling to lead my home, in the right direction. im tryign to do the right thing, the good things.
In my opinion, Roman Catholicism is not the right way to go. Read the Bible yourself and compare it to what they teach, it's radically different. Do not follow men, follow God. Who cares what people are screaming? You should be led by God and his Word, nothing else.
I would recommend finding a church however. One that follows what the Bible teaches. I think you should find a congregation. It's important to find others who share your beliefs.
As to the tithe, I would just give it to the church you go to, or to any organization that brings glory to God.
As to the translation, The Bible should guide you, I don't know specifically what "loose ideals" you are talking about but it's important to follow God's Word. In my opinion, I would look for a church that follows "sola scriptura." One that follows the Bible alone and not the traditions of men. I don't know what else to say but I will contact you if you wish.
I agree with what Neotetro has said. I John 2:27 tells us that we don't need a specific church to teach us. Teaching in the church is simply supposed to be an aid, so we all don't have to hash everything out all by ourselves. However, if you don't have a church that is helping in that way, but instead is raising doubts about the Bible, then you can get the truth all by yourself. What we need the church for is for fellowship, and to help us stay on track in our lives. Look for whatever fellowship you can find, even if it is one on one. As for your tithe money, ask God to show you who to give it to. I give some of mine to a brother in Christ who was a Muslim who is risking his life going back to give a lifeline to others who were like him under a death sentence in their country. The tithes of the Torah were often used to help feed the poor Deuteronomy 14:28-29. Above all, rest in the knowledge that God knows your heart and can work through even the most disastrous circumstances. Commit your son into his care. I sympathize with your marital situation. Just remember that God can overrule. Focus on trying to help others and that will help you get your mind off your own troubles, as bad as they are.
thats my biggest problem i think, guys, is hearing the voice of god over all the other things. ppl try to get me to look at things in front of me and i dont think it is that cut and dried. i wanna do the right thing, ya know.
the loose ideals i am speaking about, amongst other things. i went to this church and they were swingers. like they tried to get my parents to join in, its creepy and kinda sickening. it left a nasty taste in my mouth, not from god but fellowship with other christians, and things such as. i believe there are a-holes everywhere and since i am in a small community they might just be a little more close knit.
for the longest time i wanted to change religions, but that wouldnt solve my faith and spirituality problems. i would like to pray and meditate on the bible in private, that is ok right? i was raised that way and think it is acceptable, prayer and lamentation for show is a sin... im sorry guys i cannot pray in tongues as every says i should be able to. i think gos gives us all didfferent gifts or am i wrong about that too?
thats my biggest problem i think, guys, is hearing the voice of god over all the other things. ppl try to get me to look at things in front of me and i dont think it is that cut and dried. i wanna do the right thing, ya know.
the loose ideals i am speaking about, amongst other things. i went to this church and they were swingers. like they tried to get my parents to join in, its creepy and kinda sickening. it left a nasty taste in my mouth, not from god but fellowship with other christians, and things such as. i believe there are a-holes everywhere and since i am in a small community they might just be a little more close knit.
for the longest time i wanted to change religions, but that wouldnt solve my faith and spirituality problems. i would like to pray and meditate on the bible in private, that is ok right? i was raised that way and think it is acceptable, prayer and lamentation for show is a sin... im sorry guys i cannot pray in tongues as every says i should be able to. i think gos gives us all didfferent gifts or am i wrong about that too?
Do not judge the whole flock by the folly of a few stray geese.... There is no prefect church. You won't find one. Ever. Every church has sinners in it. This is unavoidable. Do not associate with such people however. I would in your position, go into solitude for now... until you get your feet stronger.
As for tongues, it is a God given gift. Not everybody has it. I don't my father doesn't and my uncle doesn't! It's just that a gift. I recommend that you read 1st and 2nd Corinthians for more on the issue of tongues.
Paul explicitly states that tongues are for some. Other people have different gifts. You are not wrong in any sense.
thank you guys all of you for listening and giving good advice.....